The only way H could defuse some of my anger was by not adding fuel. When I b*tched, he listened, if he started to defend, justify, argue, point out what I had done wrong, whoosh, more anger. If he talked about his hurt, pain, or anger, I'd get madder. I'd been trying to talk to him about mine for years, now after a few months, he wants to talk about his. I wasn't ready to listen, that what he has a C for. I know that sounds cold, but it's true.
So how did you tell him this? What was his reaction? Did he ask for a timeline? When do you think you'll know you are ready to listen to his?
I would like to find the intestinal fortitude to say this, without fear of reprucussions of H guilting & blaming me worse than he already has for not listening to his feelings about this sitch.
hugs to you today.
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Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
