hi lost, I understand that feeling. I feel like I am starting to have some independence after separating from H 12 months ago.
When we get together to talk, go to D. ballgames, just hang out, after a while I get antsy, anxious, suffocating feeling. It is usually when he starts to put pressure on to stay longer than he had said he would, or asking for sex, or starting heavy-duty R. talk.
When things stay light, a glass of wine & small talk, or biking, etc it's fine.
What are your triggers? His 'sudden presence' seems a bit vague. Does he just show up?
Is his making an effort to find time for you a good thing? Is that something that was missing before you left?
I know that until H acknowledged his role in the M issues I was very scared that he would just 'change' to get me back. Now that he at least can 'say' he understands his role, I feel as if I can 'call him' on it, if I start to feel as if his behaviours are regressing back to what stresses me.
Are you to that point yet with your H?
glad to see you're still here.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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