Another one joins the flock (Part II)

[Mike85]

momof2girls: There are so many movies and TV shows I just can't watch anymore, either because the situations depicted hit too close to home, or because they were things wife & I used to watch together. I can't watch Britcoms anymore on PBS b/c that's how we used to spend quiet Saturday nights. Can't watch "Buffy" or "Angel" because we used to spend rainy days watching the DVD's.

OTOH, I'm watching a lot of stuff that I liked but couldn't get her to sit and watch with me - "Mystery Science Theater 3000" DVD's (that's now a daddy and sons thing), "No Reservations" with Anthony Bourdain, "Firefly," and a lot of the more violent and goofy stuff that those of us with Y chromosomes enjoy. I guess you could call it turning a negative into something positive.

Jack: I am cautious. After finding out that she'd been lying to me about the OM for weeks and to my face, trust is obviously an issue. Hell, I'm having my direct deposit from my new job placed into my personal account instead of the joint account in case wife and her boozer boyfriend happen to run short on funds while playing house & partying and decide, despite our agreement, to tap into the joint account. However, her description to my son of her intentions (getting back with me eventually) jibes with what she has said to me, her parents, and several of her friends. If nothing else, she is consistent. I'm an increasingly-cautious "glass half full guy" and choose to consider her repeated claim as a small sign of hope, right along with our continued efforts at friendship and our increased physical contact. My philosophy has always been -even prior to this life incident- that optimism and pessimism are both self-fulfilling, so choose the former.

Small steps. Achingly small steps.

As you and others have warned me, I must exercise not just caution, but a great deal of patience. Prepping for my new job will grant me an opportunity to fill my free time and help with the patience.