Your post really moved me, in fact it moved me to tears. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on this matter. I have no doubt my wife is similar to you in this regard. As you say, the key is trying to find the appropriate life preserver(s). I am not sure what the life preservers are, but I am going to try writing a note to her, telling her how much I love and adore her and how much I want to be with her and grow old together with her, but also that I need to have a full relationship. I will try and explain the devistation I feel from her rejection of my need for a more physical relationship. I have tried this verbally but I never get too far, perhaps it will be more profound if it is in writing. I understand what you are saying about just not wanting to have sex, you just didn't, but you say you enjoyed having sex and you know your husband desperately wanted to have sex but you just didn't want to engage. As a male, this point is very very difficult to understand, but I believe whole heartedly this is true. I think my wife is in this situation.
Without trying to be too prying, do you find yourself nowbecoming more engaged with your husband out of your own desire or the desire to be close to your huband (please don't answer if too personal)?
Thank you again for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
