Wow- That's great to hear about your mediation going so well and your h is not arguing with you. I hope you can feel a little less stress for that reason. Sorry to hear that your H is acting the way he does in general. I don't think many wah know what the heck they're doing or think ahead very well.
Me 40 H 39 2nd M- 6 months No kids Previous D, 1st M DBer from 2003
wow lwb! sometimes it's even worse when they are good to us, sometimes I wish stbx to be a jerk (well, he was on and off earlier this year) so I wouldnt' think "then why can't you be my H" as we'd have normal convos and talk about kids and stuff each of us will do for them.
Glad you are being taken care of, eventually he has to have his place to take the kids, I can' only think it'd be hard for you so have him there, as if the LS didnt' happen. Seems the mediation is going well, thank heavens for that. It's the kids that makes us hurt more, I hear you, but thankfully they dont witness angry exchanges between you two and he does want to take care of them.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Last night I took off work and went to dinner and drinks with my...gulp....'stbx'. I typed that to SallyM in a text to test it out last night. stbx...stbx...stbx...
Anywhoooo....I was overloaded about the mortgage/refi (first H wants all his half at once, now willing to wait if its easier on me, stop changing your mind!) and told H to get me drunk. He did his job over dinner and after dinner. It was nice, to sit and catch up, talk about us, the future. He wants me very involved in finding his new home, and getting a room ready for the girls. Apparently I will have a key and can come and go. But yes, it is hard because we are doing so well together (as 'friends') I do want to say "So, why the divorce again?" to him, but I don't. I will always love him and he will love me, but our lives will be changing in the future.
In the meantime, I am enjoying my babies and the beautiful summer weather. I love sun and fun.
"STBX" - can't do it. She'll be my W until she isn't. Why the purgatory? I agree your "STBX" is "ATF" - Already The Fool. You are really something to be able to deal with him so closely. I don't know if I will ever get there. The wounds are too fresh. But you are doing great. Keep it up!
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
I need more space from H, most definately, but will live with this for now to keep the peace. H knows things will change when the D is final and the house is in my name only.
I went out with my friend Friday night (my roommate from college, her cheating WAS will be marrying OW a month after their D, blecky) and we WON over $1000 at the casino! Kharma rules!!! We split it down the middle and left promptly without losing it. It was wonderful. I had to see her WAS the next day at her son's party. I was nice, but it was awkward, now I know how my friends feel dealing with my H at times.
H continues to get no sleep on the days that he works. He will be late again someday soon and lose his job. Not good for anyone involved.
Had trouble finding care for the girls today (H and I both work Sundays), and H's sisters stepped up right away. My babies will have a blast with their aunts and cousins today.
