Quick background, he is very possessive. This is not something I had experienced in previous relationships but somehow I found it very warm and loving to feel so possessed.
We should probably point out that the only way, the ONLY way that this type of male-female dynamic works, for the benefit of both partners, is if there is a deep, underlying foundation of mutual respect & admiration, trust, and commitment to the relationship.
Otherwise, it all breaks down. If, for example, your boyfriend thought of you as a second-class citizen for being female, as his 'property' to order about and take care of, then his possessiveness would make you feel very angry and resentful.
The context is the key --> something that most outside observers won't be able to discern, and causing them to assume the worst (like your bewildered girlfriends).
Take care,
-- B.
P.S.: feel free to respond to my posts over in my own thread (unless you specifically want your stories over here). We're going to drive readers nuts bouncing them back and forth all the time.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
