Feeling HOT HOT HOT

[Trip]

Hehehe!

Well, I can tell you that FA's dog sheds a whole lot more than my cat ever did. She's afraid of the vacuum. Otherwise, I would vacuum her. I used to vacuum my MIL's dog and he loved it!

Can't speak for shoe though on the shedding. I just hope I got the animal count right.

[BigHands]

Shoe sheds?

I missed that when I met her. Wow. Try a furminator.

FA doesn't have a dog, does he? He has that pet gerbil.

[Trip]

Shoe tries to keep that from showing when meeting people.

FA has a Furminator for his dog. It helps but is not enough for her coat.

[BethM]

Well all I know is what Julius tells me and she said that Princess sheds......at least I THINK that what she said....

[BigHands]

I have no memory of those events.

[shoeprincess]

well I see the comedy club was in full force today while I was at work thanks for the laugh guys! soo x and OW have been on my brain almost everyday latley. I dont know why and I hate it!!! when will it end. on an other note... I have done alot of soul searching about something . I feel I need to break it off with the guy I have been seeing, He is nice, big heart, loves me to pieces ..... but I dont feel for him the way he feels for me. I am unhappy more than I am happy. It kills me to say this. I am trying so hard to make it work because I dont want to just walk away. I dont want to be like my X. I just don't k now how much longer to hang on and hope it gets better.
I want someone who understands what I have gone through instead of telling me to be strong and forget about all the hurt I have gone through with my X. Maybe I am just to picky...Maybe I am just destined to be alone...

[Trip]

You are not picky, and you are not walking away and you are not destined to be alone.

This is the time to figure things out. You didn't make the commitment to this man as you did your husband so I don't see it as being the same.

We just can't be held to every person that comes into our lives. We would be crazy and we would be with the boy we first kissed in grade two!

Give yourself some time, shoe. {{{shoe}}}

[shoeprincess]

thanks Trip.. I just feel like I am not a quiter and I want to do everything possible to try and make it work. But I can only do so much. People may not approve of me talking about this here but it is called "surviving the D" and I still feel like I am doing just this. thanks for the support my friend.

[Trip]

You are not a quitter! And too bad if someone doesn't like you posting this. It is what is going on in your life and you need to have your voice heard and get some support. And yes, surviving the big D. After all, that is what you are doing.

I don't see dating as being the same as being married as in the commitment you may make. Dating is about discovering if you want to commit further. If you don't, then you should not have to be held to that. Better to find this out now then if you did commit to him and get married and end up here on the other side of the situation.

[BigHands]

Kym,

Surviving is what it's all about. It's why we're all in this forum, regardless of what some seem to think. You definitely don't have to plan a wedding with the first, or every, or any, person you date. You DO have to enjoy yourself. If you aren't, then you need to make that happen, whether with this person, on your own, or with someone else.

My own perspective, just based on what I know of you and what you posted above . . .

. . . maybe you're not ready for dating. Could it be that CSWB and the HoodRat are on your mind because you haven't processed that stuff yet? There's nothing wrong with that. It's one of those things that takes time. I think I got it easy, because in my case mental illness and all that made it very clear that the person I married didn't exist. Not so much processing to do there. Most people don't have that "luxury". And it's OK if it's taking a minute or so. Let it happen.

Just my $.02.