Baggy - I read your response on your thread too. Yeah the DD aspect just kinda cracks me up. Although, I have found so much comfort and excitement about things that I never thought would have excited me before...so I have to just throw my hands up when I read about the DD stuff and say "hey, it works for them, and I have no doubt that they are both truly benefitting from it". But for me, its just kinda like, PTHHHHHHH chyuh, RIGHT.
However, I do have one "discipline" story that happened between my man and I and this is one that most other people would probably cringe at and think we are both seriously nuts...but its ok, maybe we are nuts, so I will share anyway: hee hee!
Quick background, he is very possessive. This is not something I had experienced in previous relationships but somehow I found it very warm and loving to feel so possessed. (See my original thread for more on that and "why" it affects me in a positive way versus a negative way).
I am not "allowed" per se to dress in a seductive way in public. However, one summer day we were going out shopping and I put on a short skirt and tall shoes (not stillettos, just tall sandals). He looked at me before we were leaving and told me I was too damn sexy for my own good and he shouldn't allow me out of the house like that, but just this one time, ok.
We went out and did our shopping, and I ended up making a huge mistake. I was bending over to check out some clothes that were on a lower rack, and I didn't realize it but there was a guy sitting in a chair behind me who was getting a full show up my skirt (or pretty far up). While I was still bent over, my man comes up to me from the front, very agitated and agressive. He had been in a different department, but had returned just then. He grabbed me by the arm and stood me up. I had no clue what was going on (nothing like this ever happens). He very sternly said directly (but quietly) in my face "you can't bend over like that and give everyone a show in a short skirt" while still holding my arm very tightly.
I peeked over my shoulder behind me and saw the man sitting there and realized, oh god, now I am in trouble.
Immediately, like a child, I began stuttering out an apology and saying I didn't realize he was there. At first my man just let go of my arm and turned away from me. I followed him and got in front of him and apologized again. He softened, and realized I was telling the truth - I really hadn't known someone was there. So he said "ok, its ok, I know you didn't know he was there", but then he grabbed my arm again and got directly in my face again and quietly said "but we'll have to discuss your slutty ways more later".
Hee hee! This is my clue that I'm going to get roughed up later at night to pay for my extreme slutty sins (such a crack up, as I am the opposite of slutty).
And I did certainly learn my lesson that night. :0)
Now, the people in that store that day probably literally thought I was being abused by a guy twice my size and that I was powerless to do anything about it. We joke all the time that someone is going to call the police on him one day.
All I can say is that it made me feel very cherished, possessed and loved by him, no matter how strange that looks from the outside.
One more note, I cannot and do not ever deliberately act in a way that will cause my man to feel possessive. I don't flirt with anyone, make eyes, show too much skin. I even let him deal with all waiters, service people, delivery people, mechanics, etc, so that I won't even be talking with another guy if I can avoid it. If I were to deliberatly be trying to make him jealous or deliberatly catching the eyes or showing skin, he wouldn't react like my story above. Instead he would be very discusted and it certainly wouldn't be "fun" anymore. I have to be 100% faithful and respectful to him in order for him to feel free enough to play around with his feelings of possessivness. One moment of him feeling like I made any deliberate attempt at flirting and the whole dynamic would change.
