Mulesqb - Can the sun shine on a donkey's a$$?

[faithisbelieving]

I don't know why I keep letting things go the way they are.

...because we are afraid of conflict...afraid that we will push a WAW in MLC further away from us. It actually should be the other way around...that you stand by your principles and define boundaries during a time when they are CROSSING them.

I think 'punishing' a young boy by not taking him to his baseball practice or game is inhuman. It sounds like your W's behavior was selfish and self-centered. He's 14...she's a mother/woman (?). Grounding makes more sense or some other loss of a privilege. Horrible.

Finally....IC is personal and similar to your ability to vent and be private here, she deserves the same. If anything, IMO, you could say "I think it takes courage to pursue IC. I know you are going thru difficult times. I just want you to know that I am here and available if you need to work thru anything you discuss there (or something like that).

Pushing this will only end up hurting you. I did as you are thinking. Early on after my bomb..and my W shared the following:

My IC told me that "anger destroys love."

Let her work this out. If you need to do this jointly, do it with her in MC.

FIB