New to this forum and need help..

[tmarie]

Thank you... I feel stronger... I had so many issues with my own life and bringing all of that into a R was toxic... even without an OW or OM our M was bound to have problems... My issues and H's not being able to see those issues or sweep them under the rug was a rude awaking to us both...We had a few Ahh Haa moments...

Michele recommended a book.. The 5 Languages of Love.. I plan on reading.. I think its something all of us on this forum could use... puts things in a new perpective on how we interact with one another..

Things are relativly calm right now, but you are right, emotions will be high and low until we can both find our way to communicate on a more meaningful level.. Michele helped ALOT.. She is smart and sensitive. She really understands people and truly cares. It felt good to both H and I to be with her...Comfortable to share some of our most intimate details about our M and as individuals. She is definately someone I hold in high regard and respect.

I urge all of us there to take what she says and use it in your life. It only brings good things even if you don't see it right away. Love takes time and patience.. Respect takes time and patience. Actions speak louder than words and ALOT of us want to talk things to death.... Quit talking... show your love and respect in the way that your S will understand... FIND THAT WAY!!!!!

t