MWD, Dr Phil, SHirley Glass, Tupp, they all say the same thing...stop listening to the words coming out and listen to what's being communicated.
If you are a good listener you will hear what she's wanting from you, not just the words she's using.
buster you pay way too much attention to the wrong messages dude....save her and yourself and your family.
This guy is NOT going to be good for her, anyone who is willing to violate a private home and break up a family is NOT mature enough to maintain a long term relationship. He's just usinng her and he will throw her away once she becomes an inconvenience. Get religion after her and get her in line with her needs, shes frightened and miserable and thrashing...and this guy is sitting right there to guide her down the wrong road.
You likley weren't eaither when you were using drugs, but it sounds like she has you growing up pretty quickly