WAW is full steam ahead

[Neilh23]

Chris.
mediation takes about 2-3 months depending on your schedule. Now, is it for a separation or a straight D?

Here in NY, in order to proceed directly to a D, there needs to be a "reason." is it hte same where you are? and if it's true, what reason could she give?

Remember, you DO have a choice in the matter, and you need to be comfortable (not right word, but can't think of another) with what you sign, simply because it is a life time binding agreement.

Remember, she's just as scared as you are. I think you are correct in your assessment of her. You should know her best.

Try not to discuss the terms of the D with her. Let the mediator do her work. It caused tremendous problems and tension in my sitch when my W and I talked about the terms of the Sep papers because both of you are going to view things differently.

Take your time with everything. Slow it down as best as you can. but use legitmate excuses. think things over before you agree to anything. use the 48 hour rule.

i'm sorry for your sitch. I really am. I feel your pain, but slow it down as best as you can. that's really the only thing i can tell you.

Use the LRT...go dark. stay away from her. Let her see what it's going to be like without you there.

Good luck.