It's like a pendulum - it swings extremely before it settles in the middle. You worked like mad, then took much needed time for yourself. Let your life balance, it is trying to find the middle. As long as your finances are meeting your needs, the work will come. Set hours of operation for your business and stick to them. I was miserable as a consultant until I did that and it was hard to stop pushing myself. Making money is what I do best - it is still a constant battle.
M GF - I have a friend like that. Since she was my friend for about 10 years prior to her dating a M man, we had a good history together. She knew she couldn't justify it to me, but I learned a lot. Since we had other things outside her relationship to talk about, I just became silent when she needed to vent (I knew him too before this all started). It's wasn't my life and I care for her. A tough place to be but if you feel strongly about discontinuing the friendship, then you should do that.
We all think we're special. I remember telling her that what people will do with you, they will do to you. They always show us what they are capable of. And not just in intimate R's. Actions are consistent. People are consistent. They reflect their core beliefs in everything they do.
So, I do think it's a great idea to let her know how you feel. As I explained to my friend, my pea-sized brain could not comprehend her R. I share your point of view that you are M until your D is final. I dated one S man and will not do that again. There's a lack of balance in life during S, not a good environment for me to start a new R.
Take a deep breath and let go. This work stuff will sort out. You will land on your feet. You always do.
