Look Buster, research it, 80% of marriages survive infidelity. Less than 20% of affairs end up in long term relationships, be it living together or being married. Commit yourself to being in that number, if thats what you want, and again, I will say, DO NOT tell her you are going to do something if you arent absolutely sure that you are going to do it, (moving back in, filing for D, taking the trash out, whatever).

I dont know what else to say, get some books, get a life (that may or may not include her), do what you can to help yourself, promise yourself that regardless of what happens between you and W, you will be okay. You have to be, for your child, theres no place to go but forward! Do not beat yourself up over the past, have your figured out how to unring a bell? You cant change it, what matters NOW is what you do with the lessons that your past has taught you.

This woman is in a troubled relationship and for whatever reason she cant seek help, Im sorry but that doesnt say too much for her, if she chooses to walk this road alone, you cannot change it, or make her choices for her, as painful as it might be, you have to either be okay with her being crazy for a while or not and move on. Deciding which road you will choose right now will help you a lot! Do not let her mistakes determine your actions! You have shown that you are a bigger man than that! Your child deserves a father that is absolutely grounded in his principles and will not be swayed by the actions of people around him.

Pray, get counseling, research, read, play music, write poetry, run, learn a new language, paint, restore a car, volunteer, collect rocks. Figure out how to feed your soul, it needs it now more than ever.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...