<<We want you to talk to us. Lead the way. Tell us what to do. Most of the time. It should be clear to you when. We do our best to show you.
I've been doing pretty good at leading. Yesterday was weird. different. Confusing.
<<I was going to say.. its not what you say.. its how you say it. I see some Advanced DAM in him.
Yep, I totally get this. I'm learning how to say most things so it comes out allright. Sometimes, my mouth does out run my brain, & I have to back up & say to him "I didn't mean that the way it came out". Most of the time, he says "I didn't even take it the wrong way". Progress.
<<Did it look like this.. Big Fight.. Him Angry/Tired.. You Crying.. and saying.. I need you to hold me? He thought he was communicating to. Neither of us understand each other. You use to many words.. I use to few. Somewhere.. in the middle.. is OK. I don't want you to change.. and I don't want you to change me.
Yep, that would be the old days.
<<What are you going to say.. when you don't know what to say? Logic is the way to understanding. You have the understanding.. because they are your emotions.. He has the Logic.. because he does not understand.
Got it. Makes perfect sense when you say it that way.
<<I think you just agreed with me.
I do that often huh. (who's the bigger smart *ss, you or me ?)
<<Lets say.. I plopped a Dell 2950 down in front of you and said.. I need you to stand up a Domain controller. It has a 100 users.. here is the list of names. It will have Exchange, Citrix, and a Blackberry server looking at it.... GO! Now.. when you get done with that.. I will be upstairs.
No problem. (I'm the bigger smart *ss)
<<Confusion. Misunderstanding. NFC Disease. Dive.. Dive.. The ship is going down.
Yep, deer in the headlights.
<<Duty.. Honor! Not really.. just frustrated.. and confused. DAM!
Maybe he likes the holding now ?
<<That is awesome! You knew something was wrong. I see you balking a bit.
balking ? how ? where ?
<<So now I gotta go back and read you last thread. I hate the locking thing!! WHY!!!
there isn't any more of an explanation. I didn't put all that out because it was "fluff".
<<Him leaving you with all the Emotion.
perhaps. _________________________ <<Do Work.
I usually do. hugs (do you not like hugs ?)
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
