I'm afraid to love him

[Ready2Change]

Hi SC,

I have been busy GAL and just stopped in to say hi. I just caught up on your sitch.

I'm hurting & confused.... I don't understand. Why does he pull back just when I need reassurance the most

First, I am sorry you are hurting.

Second, I will attempt to answer your question (Just thinking out loud here). Remember that you are both starting a new relationship with each other. You both have been working hard at it. Do more of what is working. Stop doing what doesn't work. Have you been getting good results by talking to H? Why the post it note? Did that work? He wanted to help, maybe no words would have worked (take his hand lead him to couch and put you both in a comfortable position for him to hold you)? Maybe talk to him now that you are less emotional and explain what you needed and why sop that next time he will understand...Also why not have him hold you in bed when he offered?? Is bed different than couch? (Of course, I now know that H should have said of course dear, I will hold you as long as you need me to...)

My thought are with you and I pray that your relationship continues to improve. Remember, If you make a change in your R with H, it forces him to change. Also remember not to slip back into old R. Make changes that move the R toward where you want it to be. You will get there. H is trying. Both of you need to bend and meet in the middle.

*HUGS*