just wanted to say thanks for the chat. It's been rattling about in my head all day - what I can remember anyway. I was in the midst of being transported to a higher plane by my soup so ...
It's funny, you read these advice books/columns/postings and everything seems so black and white. Someone either HAS given up on the M or they HAVEN'T. No grey. And yet I think the whole thing is grey, which is why it's so hard. But I don't know. Maybe by the time one spouse leaves, things are beyond repair, depending on the sitch. But it really depends on the WAS, how they communicate, and whether they've shut down emotionally or not. Would you agree? Because that determines how wide of a door the LBS has - the crack through which to display a puppet show in an attempt to gain the interest of the WAS. If that attention can be captured, the LBS can have the chance to show artistry. But not until at least a modicum of interest has been captured.
Anyway, rambling. And wondering - you never answered my question. What's different about the way you deal with forceful personalities at work (and I know how forceful those personalities can be) and the way you deal with H? Is it simply modes of interaction that have been set in stone with him?
just curious. hope your day wasn't too hot and that at some point you caught the smell of mint in the air.
