you can't. That's why you have to concentrate on yourself.
Listen, buster. LOL - that's kind of funny to say. Anyway, she decided things were over a long time and it's pretty darn rare for that to change. I'm just being honest here. But there ARE times when the M can be saved. So if you're committed to your M, the best you can do is toe the line between showing her the person she fell in love with, shining a light back to your M, and reclaiming your life in order to make it what you want it to be.
You can't just react to what she wants - that's not attractive and you're giving up your dignity and self-worth. The whole point of DBing is to regain dignity and self-worth.
So I'm a bit confused about your post. Your W says it's over on her end and she's cheating and generally treating you like crap. And you're worried about going against her wishes and ticking her off?! Have you ever considered that part of the problem might be that she sees you as a pushover who won't pursue what he wants? People who cheat generally go after someone who is more goal-oriented and engaged.
