It just takes time, they say it takes 1 month per year of marriage. For me this was accurate, at about 15 months it was not a problem anymore.
We've been married 18 years, & it took 12 months for us. It was a long 12 months though.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
... helped me realize I had to change my parenting style once spouse left. I'd always been the narc, strict, telling them what to do. Once he left, I realized I had to be accessible, not a pit bull; create a place they want to be at...
Hi Gypsy! I've done 180's in this area also. I am more accessible also....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
So, I spent the last 4 days at a "star party". It was good to get some time to relax. I am back at the house with the kids. I missed them. W will be back to house Wednesday at 5:00...
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
There were some BIG scopes. Two nights had great viewing. Saturn and Jupiter were out. They looked great! I was able to view M51 (a spiral galaxy) through a 36" (mirror diameter) scope. It was absolutely amazing! I got some good photos. Camping was relaxing. Bike riding felt good. I got a sunburn fishing.....
Life is much better. The tension and frustration has decreased a lot since W and I have a nesting arrangement now.
I am asking what is Best/Worst thing about each day. S7 says spending time with you/not seeing mommy....(He is very attuned to what is going on and makes similar comments to W).
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
There were some BIG scopes. Two nights had great viewing. Saturn and Jupiter were out. They looked great! I was able to view M51 (a spiral galaxy) through a 36" (mirror diameter) scope. It was absolutely amazing! I got some good photos. Camping was relaxing. Bike riding felt good. I got a sunburn fishing.....
Life is much better. The tension and frustration has decreased a lot since W and I have a nesting arrangement now.
I am asking what is Best/Worst thing about each day. S7 says spending time with you/not seeing mommy....(He is very attuned to what is going on and makes similar comments to W).
awesome on the star party. glad it was clear for you.
