I've been checking out a lot of the archived materials and got confirmation of what I already knew - I've gone too fast, moved ahead of where my H is, etc. The question is - well, I guess the two questions are: have I totally blown it? should I TELL him that I realize he needs to go more slowly, or should I just go more slowly?
For now, I've got myself back into smile, smile, smile mode, and I've let him know pretty clearly that I hope to ML later tonight. I will not bring up OR and will just listen if he talks - I hope. I did talk too much this morning, I should have stopped the conversation when I realized where it was going, instead of pressing him for an answer. I should have come here days ago and read those older posts.
I hope I get a chance to apply my new understanding of what's going on. I thought we were much further ahead that we are. He now says again that he feels like he's 'settling' because of the kids.
I'm going to do something more useful than dwell on this - I'm sure almost anything will be more useful.
I've been working so hard at this, the thought of having to pick it all up again is almost more than I can stand.
