I have a 2 bedroom a few blocks from STBX. I allowed STXW to buy me out of the house because she would be more able to keep up payments on the mortgage that would need to be taken out as she earns more. I did not want the kids to have to deal with mom and dad separating and then the loss of their home too! No way. I also didn't want to live my life a cash stapped home owner who couldn't do anything but sit in his backyard for fun. Our home was paid off so she had to take out a mortgage to pay me off, so I'm sitting on a nice little wad of cash! Now, the kids spend one week with me and one with my STBX. My lawyer says it is a very unusual arrangement as males tend to get screwed. In all fairness, my STBX knows I am a good father and that my kids would suffer if I wasn't allowed equal time. She was very co-operative so that is also a good reason to keep things as friendly as possible, it's best for parenting arrangements. Now, as for concentration, it will come back FLTC, you've been though so much and it's normal to be in a haze for awhile. I had trouble sleeping the first month or so, I would sleep about 3 or 4 hours a night for a couple in a row and then pass out for 10 hours, just accept it and know that it will get back to normal. It's a traumatic journey, FLTC but just try to remember what my Coffee Buddy said to me, and I will always be grateful for, "no matter how bad it gets, it will always get better"...it will FLTC, it will. Btw, I'm on the ninth floor too!
