The Bumpy Road to Recovery

[Bagheera]

I went back and checked out TIH website a bit more. There are some really varied lifestyles out there, aren't there?

Indeed there are, and I'm sure there are many TIH practitioners who would consider what my wife and I have started to not truly be Taken in Hand because domestic discipline (DD) is *not* included. I have a personal aversion to the concept, such that erotic spanking is hard enough for me to do. Besides, my wife is one who is attracted to brains (intelligence, wisdom, & cleverness), and I believe that physically dominating her outside of the bedroom would be seen as a "cheap" shortcut, and one that she would resent. This lioness will have to be conquered via other means....most of the time .

The TIH concept does, however, encompass an entire range of male-led relationships (including non-DD), and has been one of the very few sites which discusses such marriages in detail and with pride (with the webmaster and most of the contributors being strong, intelligent women). It was refreshing to find as a resource. That said, my wife and I don't need any particular label for what we now have, and are not worried about it --> we will find what works best for us as a couple, and go with it.

My guess is that once you and Mrs. Bagheera get all this figured out, you will one day say "what took us so long?!"

I've already been kicking myself in the butt for not seeing all of the signs that were there, pointing to this type of relationship long ago. Hindsight is 20/20, of course. At least I finally got it, and put the trousers on.

Take care,

Bagheera