First off don't beat yourself up too much for you 1st phone convo, let us with 2x4's do that. You were warned not to broach the subject that it would get you no where all it would do is get W angry. You have to try not to react you nibbled the carrot and then took a BIG chunk out of it. With that being said, you need to get up, brush the dust off of yourself and 'do work'.
You aren't the 1st to react with emotion you are only human, but now you can see what happens.
Okay 2nd phone call, she called cause she got busted and the guilt was eating her up, she IMO wanted to get a feeling of where you were now. You did good by validating her with wanting to get along and to be friends at this point when WAS are this angry hold your tongue listen & validate agree with them eve if you don't really agree let them vent.
Secondly you comfortered her in telling her you want her happy, that is putting her needs 1st, which you didn't do in the first phone convo. You gotta put her first she has told you that is what she needs. IMO her showing emotion could be 2 fold take caution with it she could actually be sincere in her apology's this might be true or again just getting caught.
Thirdly, your brain is full this is true lotes of emotions and thoughts going on, time to calm yourself and take a step back and regroup take a breathe alot has happened in 1 day, just be quiet for now. Her commenting about the lawyers and all maybe true or just her gut reaction getting caught with her hand in the cookie jar. Nobody says it has to be over so far it's been just a bunch of heated words many people on these boards are dealing w OP's you need to ask yourself some tough questions on what direction you want to go. You have to do this with no emotion give yourself sometime clear your mind.
Lastly, don't try and assume what she is thinking bro you have no idea right now, she has a full plate she may be realizing that she is pulling her family apart or she maybe scared what you are going to do as I said just be quiet for now.
Yes concentrate on you and the kids right now give it space and time right now let her bring things up don't fuel the fire as it were and ask things of her. Do your homework try and get a good nights sleep...
