"Let's say that "gifts" are her LL. I like the idea of getting little inexpensive things to just let her know that you were thinking of her.......but tell me this......how can you do this as a S couple without it looking as though you are pursuing her"
You take the kids.. and do something they would enjoy.. you factor in that they would have fun making something. You all may enjoy making something. You include in the "making something" process.. Mommy. 3 of you go.. 4 gifts get made. Mommy gets included.. and was not even there. That "gift" should have a little bit of all of you 3 in it. perusing.. and showing someone you care.. 2 completely different things. You can touch a LL.. even if you are separated. Honestly.. you have before.. you just forgot how. "Gifts" come from the heart.. you don't have to buy them.. usually the less you spend.. and the more of "something" they can see in it.. the better off you are.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.