HI lowrob In regards to your question, I dont beleive you can move forward with a LD partner who isnt willing to change. I think you can only hold on until a solution is found. I went 8 years with a LD W who, knew there was a problem but just couldnt or wouldnt change. But then things came to a head and after days of arguements,talks,slient treatments etc. I asked for a divorce. All of a sudden my W jumped into action looking for a solution. She discovered this website and SSM,and we began our road to recovery. Would asking for the big D help you??? Who knows. It seemed to work for me but I could just be one of the lucky ones who discovered the magical solution. I wouldnt suggest it to anyone but if all else fails.... I read your posts and like a lot of HD men on here completly understand the frustration and bitterness. I delt with 8 years of LD aggravation and never understood my W reasoning. Now I realize that the only way to a solution is understanding. Good Luck on finding the path to understanding.
