Quick response here and then I'll try to do a little more over in your thread when I have a little more time.
Quote: I honestly believe that she loves me. But the problem is that I get to feeling that she doesn't love me, or that she's not "in love" with me, and even if I believe in my heart that she does love me, my emotions (or whatever) take over and I feel like she doesn't.
Understood. Just realize that this is coming from you, not her. You and I were doing the same thing with respect to our spouses, leading to our distressed feelings toward our spouses and marriages. Different issue, same behavior on our part. I'll say more later.
Quote: Anyway, I do believe that sex and love are at least somewhat related in a marriage.
Yes. The point my h made through his response to the situation was that he knew the love was a constant within our marriage. The love was the central core to our marriage. That was firmly there without question. Because of his understanding of that core, variations in behavior (including sexual interest) were the branches blowing in the wind or the leaves budding, growing, changing color, falling away and then returning. ( ) This belief is what kept him grounded, happy, friendly, and patient throughout our SS period. His attitude and behavior are what kept sex from becoming a battleground for us.
Quote: But when sex (and romance in general) is the only thing missing, and the lack of it is driving one of you into depression, I think it becomes a central issue - at least until it's resolved.
I've got too long a response to this for the moment. But think about what you wrote...sex/romance is the only thing missing right now from your marriage.
) This belief is what kept him grounded, happy, friendly, and patient throughout our SS period. His attitude and behavior are what kept sex from becoming a battleground for us.
