Thanks L and Gypsy!!! I don't know what 'switched' in me (to move here), but it just felt like time.
cat, one time a few weeks ago I had a reply ready for your thread, and I lost it. I was at work, got distracted and never posted it. lol I saw that your H watched your kiddos in your home. That is our situation as well. Hard for space, huh? I am refinancing the home in my name in a couple of weeks, so I am going to set some new boundaries, but don't want H to feel totally uncomfortable in the house either. UGH
Journaling:
Round 2 went SO well. Mediator is amazing. Does her job to a "T". She even made H leave the room when I needed the bathroom because we aren't allowed to be alone with her. She is great. We waded through a ton of stuff today and it felt good that H and I agree on so much. I think this mediator thinks we are crazy to get divorced since we get along so well.
Went from the mediator to my mortgage guy. He is a friend of H's, so we went to lunch and H joined us. I will be refinancing very soon. H went on and on with our guy about me at lunch "LWB is wonderful, best thing that happened to me, I f'ed up, dumped her. I want her happy and able to sleep at night and not worry about money". H is crazy. lol He is using some of his house equity to pay off my car, our credit card, and D4's schooling until Kindergarten (then its free!). He loves me, just has to end our marriage for whatever reason.
On the way home, he asked me to take off work and go to dinner and gambling with him tomorrow night. Crazy man, for sure.
All in all a good, very good day. A year ago, I would have been a bawling mess, and H would have been a ball of anger. SO glad H forced us to wait things out (he wouldn't move out, he wouldn't talk official "D" until things calmed with us) a bit. We are both in such a great place to co-parent. Sigh, the kids.....still hurts to think about that, for sure.
