Cat, welcome to Surviving! I like to think of the Surviving thread as the DB version of Escape From New York, we kind of make our own rules here (until the mods kick our butts from time to time...not saying that has ever happened). I think surviving is also a time of relief and celebration, if that makes sense. We've all come through such emotionally and physically draining times and we've SURVIVED. This is a time for each of us to take stock, look to the future and give thanks for having made it this far. I used to work with Cancer patients,for a short while, and I was always stunned by the positive and hopeful attitudes these people seemed to have. I realized one day that if they didn't adopt that attitude they'd curl up and die, there was no upside in holding onto anger, depression, negativity and worry. They knew what they had to do to survive and they were gonna do it! It was quite inspiring to see. In many ways, we are in similar emotional situations where if we don't see the cup as half full rather than half empty we will stumble and maybe never get up. So that's my take on Surviving, enjoy the party but remember, you can't be Kurt Russell! Have a great BD and keep on smilin' Btw, don't believe any of that stuff going around about Tom dating a dead woman's ashes...it was a one night stand and everyone knows it! Such gossips
