hey, I know that in ANY R there is a risk of an A happening for either people. But when you actually go thru this aweful experience, and believe me, it's not fun for both people, it's very stressful even if there is crazy fantasy stuff happening...I think most people would agree that they would rather not go thru it again. If you guys, after totally reconciling, really have a good talk, you can discuss what you will do differently if problems occur.

I remember asking my H how do I know things will be different, and he said we'll talk if we have problems.

I think now that we have gone thru the problems, we will recognize things better.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."