Wife is considering filing - Need Help

[LosingSunshine]

So you have to ignore page 11 of my thread due to a post posting multiple times...

So the snoop delivered and left me wondering...is my WAW thinking she is a lesbian? Where the books a trap courtesy her lesbian friend? More questions than answers at this point but it does explain a lot. The question is why and I have no control over why. Not easy to accept but I must continue doing as is, act as if, and detach further and stay strong for my kids.

I had to get out tonight to meet a colleague for dinner and it's about time W does some chores and spends some time with the kids when she's not drinking like last Saturday. Funny thing is, I left while she was trying to catch a zzzz and my 2s was crying for a cookie. I had told him no because he barely ate dinner but as I was leaving the W caved. You can tell she's exhausted and is putting on an act with the kids. I know I shouldn't have left but she said okay and I did not want to be there. Still wearing my work clothes, looking nice, eventhough I spent the day at home with 4d because she is sick.

So, no need for a 2x4, I know I should not have snooped, but is there ever a good time to confront W to ask if there is OP involved? Is this normal? Are WAWs that emotionally fragile that repressed childhood issues can be released and manifested this way? Or am I just that bad in the sack and made my W switch teams?

Chris