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You have accomplished so much in your sitch with no outside help. It is well beyond what most people can accomplish. However, I think you could still benefit from going through the Retrouvaille experience. They teach both you and your husband a communication technique that forces each of you to listen to the other with your heart. This is a different kind of listening. It is a listening that leads to understanding. And with understanding, who knows what is possible! The dates and places are on the website, http://www.helpourmarriage.org.