Hi everyone. Wow I had no idea I had been gone so long.
Looks like my last post was my son's Birthday. Well that was an event. My son threw my H out of his NYC apartment and has not spoken to him since. My H emails and write him, but my son has decided my H is nuts and won't budge until his Dad gets sane.
Meanwhile, I have gone dark on H also. I have answered a few emails that pertain to business or the divorce and a few calls that had to do with moving my son back to LA. Hurray for that, as having my son around has been great.
I did answer one call from my H by mistake (I was in such a good mood I forgot to check the caller ID) on father's Day. My H was a mess. I got the usual I love you both and want you in my life speech. But really it was a help me get my son back call that soon went into irrational stuff....mostly how it must be my fault that our son is not speaking to H. So I decided to send my H the Lundy Bancroft book (Why do They Do That) on abuse. It has a great chapter on how to make amends. Haven't heard a word since then.
I doing fairly well. The lack of insanity in my life has been great. Not being caught up in the drama of my H's life has really made me feel so much better. I still feel sad for the loss of my marriage, but have decided it is out of my hands. I have done all I could do to be open, kind, and let my H know I am available to talk, but not while the OW is in his life. I just can not find it in me to support the choices he is making right now.
