H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

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HC

Just a little insight into what is happening in my sitch. My W had apparently talked to her mom and found nothing but support for my W wanting to D (MIL could understand, I did not have the right personality that W needed in her life right now, etc). I internally cried B.S., but just acknowledged when my W told me this. This was a couple weeks ago, and of course, no mention of A. I know that because W talked to good family friends of ours and told them what she told her mom, said "that is what I told my parents, but there is more", broke down and told the family friends about the A (the family friends told me they lost all support they may have had for my W at that point, told her to drop OM and get back to figure out what is really important).

This past weekend, W's parents were at our house and they had another discussion - much less supportive of where W is at, told both of us that they want to hear nothing but positive things, no more negative, from us and left it at that. Still no A talk.

I mention this only to say that after H mum thinks about it, she may not be as supportive of him and may become more supportive of you as a couple. Never know.

If I am asked by my IL whether there was an A, my commitment to myself (and I have told my W) is that I will not lie. Too much lying and deceit going on already in our place. W is worried because her parents tore her to shreds when they suspected there may be an A. This is my plan because I think it is the right thing for me to do. I have already contacted OMW and am paying a small, but I think temporary price for that, but again for me it was the right thing to do.

Whatever you do, please make sure you do not regret it later - then I think you will know it was the right thing for you to do.