There's alot of confusion with all of this Corey, and I'm very sorry for that. If it helps move things along either way, in IL, whomever files for CS first is the one that benefits the most. So, if OW decides to file CS before you do, then you will lose out on some of it...even though your family came first! This is what I'm told anyway when H's OW told me she was pg (she lied). I'm not saying this to hurt you or upset you, but only to let you know what might be able to happen since there's another child coming along.
I'm on the fence about DD knowing about the new baby quite yet too. Only because if you tell her, and it's not H's, then what's she going to be but more confused. At least if you wait to tell her after you find out if it's H, then it's a done thing. JMO.
