Would really like WAW your opinion

[Neilh23]

everhope...... your name should say it all.

I was/am very similar. It wasn't intentional. It just happened. you don't want to be controlling, but it happened. You can't do anything about it, so don't dwell on it.

and its not "pretty much" your fault. its 50/50. While you were controlling, in some ways, she LET you be controlling too. That's her fault for not speaking up when she needed to.

Listen, you know it was a subconscious thing to be controlling. But it's a conscious choice to be NOT controlling. You do have a choice here. Yeah it's tough, but believe she can forgive you. Show her that you've changed. don't just say it. Do it.

i wish i could tell you that i know the magic way to show our W's that we don't want to be controlling and won't be again. But i can't. I'm not sure how to do that. PErhaps a WAW could somehow enlighten us.....