A, It's not that your h doesn't seem to care about you and how you feel, but he's an emotional wreck right now. Heck, he can't help himself, so how can he help you? As for going quiet...that's normal, especially if something is coming up that they would rather sweep under the rug and depression could be forcing him to focus on his "me" self right now. You have to remember that the crisis is all about him and you really don't factor into his equation except that you and the relationship are what is holding back from his freedom, illusive happiness and no responsibilities. Keep in mind, they all think this way and it's something you've said or done. They just completely look at us as the enemy and this can go on for quite a while. That's why it's important to leave them alone as much as possible to work through the process.
His comment about he felt so bad to call....depression and guilt at their finest. All of his strength right now is being used up in the day-to-day world putting on masks so that others think he's fine. He's emotionally beat up and can't deal w/talking about separations/divorce and finances, but it's got to be done and you are going to have to be the one to keep your business hat on when discussing finances. Leave your heart at the door because you are dealing w/business matters.
I'm sorry, it's frustrating, but if you read some of the threads posted in this forum and the resources threads, you'll discover they all follow a similiar path. The Mother Ship loads up every day and they are gone for a very long time in some instances.
You now are on your own and you have to find a way to take care of yourself and do not rely on him to be rational or their to support you. It's all about him now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
