How are you feeling, Valentine? I hope you are getting stronger every day. You are lucky not to have the angry MLCer that I do. We have been D since August 2007 and he still can find more to lash out at me about than can be believed. I used to get so upset and assume that he hated me. Well, I know my husband very well and throughout our whole marriage when he knows what he did was wrong, he gets angry and lashes out at the person he has hurt. He reacts very negatively to guilt.

I so agree with others, LL reactions is quite possibly from the guilt of not being where he should be. Take care and I hope I didn't offend by calling your H a dork in an earlier post.

Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.