A, Happy anniversary despite what is happening. It was a very happy time for you and your h and you shouldn't allow what he's doing to destroy those beautiful memories.
Of course, he can't stay around you for very long. The guilt and depression are eating him alive. Eventually, you may find that he doesn't call or come over as much. This is called the withdrawal stage of depression. They'll go through periods of this while in depression. It appears that your h has already started if your nights are quieter. He's really focusing on himself and pulling himself within. Don't think this is odd at all. It's all par for the course. Continue to read the depression symptoms and you will find that what he is doing is very, very normal.
Keep the focus on you and your children. I do think you are very wise to seek employment with more $$$ attached to it. Things aren't getting any cheaper these days.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
