The majority of WAS's do end up choosing their Spouses, but the biggest problems lie in the fact that the LBS's has no ability to forgive or to make the changes to themselves to allow their Spouses to come back home.
I can understand why you would say that. I have spent alot of time thinking about that, whether I could forgive my H for what he has done. I believe in my heart that I have forgiven him, and I continue to forgive him every day, every time I learn something new, every time I remember how he has hurt me. I believe that forgiveness is a choice, it is a very difficult choice, and requires more strength than any other choice we can make in our lives.
Yes, allowing the OW to occupy alot of headspace is terribly destructive. Don't get me wrong, I am not obsessed w/ OW, and perhaps this is BECAUSE I know so much about her. I know that I am stronger than she is, I know that I understand my H much more than she ever will, and I know that she is merely a "drug" for my H. I understand alot about my H's MLC and am basically waiting for her to fade away.
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
