Yesterday she asked for money again saying her sister gave her money and I needed to pay her sis back. I said that I new nothing about that. She then said out nephew lent her money for the park so I could just pay him back. Told her I new nothing about that either and that that's her agreement with him and she could pay him back out of money I give her if she wants when I give it to her.
They were at the park, and I went over the house to get some things and try to fix my daughters computer. Well, when I get on the computer I see a bunch of tabs open that my wife was using. I saw that she was looking for a bunch of stuff to buy this new guy, romantic gifts and sports stuff. I also saw that she was looking for romantic weekend getaways in august around an upcoming race.
I know that my mother in law was supposed to be taking the kids to stay with a friend of hers out of state for a mini vacation and I couldn't for the life of me figure out why my wife would not be going. I guess this is why, she plans to go with this guy away on a weekend.
I also saw a post of hers on a site she frequents. Someone was asking for advice about their marriage. They said they found out their husband was cheating etc.
My wife posted that advice that they should go to counseling and try to work things out and if it didn't work to go their separate ways. She said the she is going through a divorce now and couldn't be happier.
That really hut considering she refused to go for counseling in out marriage yet that's the advice she gives.
Fast forward today -
She texted me and told me to bring the rest of the child support to the kids game today. I had not planned on giving it to her until next week because I know its too early in the month and she will just blow right through it.
I talked to the older couple that we are friends with (they actually called me) and told me that she just talked to my wife and the divorce decree arrived and she wants me to sign it and get it notarized today.
The reality and hopelessness of the situation really just hit me hard. I could not even function today. I could not even go to the kids game. I'm like totally devastated.
The couple said she is firm and not budging on the divorce. She's already making plans with this other guy for a romantic getaway etc.
I have no idea what to do. If I stall and do not sign the papers it will just make her furious and she'll just hate me. She already told me that the other night.
Should I just sign them and face reality that we are getting divorced no matter what I say or do?
This is one of the worst days of my life. I really need some advice.
- Scott
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