Better! the smile one and physical ones I might be tempted to leave until you get some positive feedback (it will be nonverbal!) on the others.
To me and this is IMO, ok?
When H. does the smile, clothes, hair, looks compliment thing... it makes me think he wants sex. Seems like too much of a pickup line. Anyone can make those comments, because anyone can see those things about her.
Knowing her, really truly knowing who she IS, to affirm WHO she is... takes intimate knowledge. That is what I think most woman want most of the time, especially those of us whose LL is words of affirmation.
Now.. if one of the things you admire about her is that she takes pride in her appearance, works out, eats healthy, takes care in picking out make-up, hair styles etc... that is a different type of affirmation than ..wow your smile is amazing.
Get it? An example:
I remember a close male friend (who we were travling with) was in our hotel room while my H & I were finishing getting ready to go out for supper. I was putting on my make-up.. I remember noticing him watching me out of the corner of my eye, but didn't think much about it.
Until he mentioned to my H. "Bridge really does a wonderful job of picking out make-up that suits her, and applying only enough to enhance her beauty. It is an art to understand that makeup is to enhance not to coverup or change. You are a lucky man to have a woman who can convey that to your daughter.
H. looked dumbfounded, first at him, then at me. And went.. yeah I guess so.
I lived on that compliment for years everytime I put my make up on or picked new make up out. That affirmation warmed me and reinforced that skill, that belief I have about make-up.
Silly huh? But it really does take so little, at least for me.
Maybe I'm with Gypsy in saying 'i'm easy!"
Hope that helps. Bridgestone
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
