Hi Phoenix! Yeah, I think I will get the book too, although I am also busy reading a lot (picked up some interesting books at Powell's in Portland --- so cheap).
For me, at the moment, it's not so much 'improve without talking', it's just that I have nothing left to say. So, why bother restating anything, or pointing out the obvious (well, to me it is, and I cannot believe he is happy with not having a physical R, but he doesn't want to talk about it --- therefore, nothing gets said, and we have King Kong sitting on our bed every weekend when he's home). Ugh!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim