I am getting mad watching him pulling this card out over and over again...
Me too! The only thing I can change is my reaction. "The Offer" no longer scares me. I know he's "reacting" to me taking away the privilege of spending time with my guests & extended family when he wants family time. I know that until he has to give something up, nothing is going to change.
I lose more respect for him daily. He's not acting like a man, so I'll do what I can not to encourage that behavior.
I think I do have the card in my hands & I won't make the mistake of handing it over to him.
The power comes from knowing that I'm OK with or without him & knowing that my boundaries are firm & getting firmer all the time.
I'm taking today to relax & put this to the side. Let it rest (something I wouldn't allow pre-DB).
Thanks for your take K, it's always helpful, please keep it up.
