No problem. I write from a different perspective than most because I'm not in the same place as many on here...coming from a position of letting desire to win my spouse back cloud everything else.
I've been in the standpoint of divorced and still happily divorced and divorced and happily reconciled, so write from both perspectives.
My first wife did this 'I own the kids' type stuff (still does) and the bitter, unforgiving stuff, and I look at her now, 10 years post-D, and can't even imagine how I could have a happy life with her.
On the other hand, I also have the experience of reconciling with my second wife. Before reconciling, I told myself I would not have her back if I was her second choice or a fallback plan, but because she wanted to be with ME, for ME. I felt I got that. If I had to talk her into trying again based on promises to be better or she came hesitantly with held-over grudges and two strikes against me, I think it would have been a miserable start. I would have been walking on eggshells waiting for the other shoe to drop. You can't base a relationship solely on what you plan to bring to it and she gets to come back scot free because she's somehow blameless and perfect. It's okay to keep the line of communication open, but be sure you keep your own needs in mind. You deserve a true shot for a wonderful relationship...I'm hoping she'll work around to being able to give it to you...but be patient. Don't tip your hand.
As for the text conversations...sometimes it is the medium that works. I feel my wife and I resolve fights easier with text or e-mail than in person. I know it's weak, but you do what works. Face to face is maybe ideal, but whatever works for you.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
