But honestly, if I did call her up she wouldn't talk much...she never does. Its always "if that's what you want to do". At the end of May I told her to file for an S or D and she said okay. Of course nothing. She does nothing. I think she's enjoying her single life and wants me to hang in the background until its done. For two months I thought I'd try this and see where I was, but I'm having more and more trouble. I've got no goals, and GALing is actually getting me into trouble.
Make some goals. Start small. Include the goal of letting go of the anger and frustration. Remind yourself, "it's a difference of opinion. She thinks she's right and so do I." Include things to do for yourself. And GALing didn't get you into trouble..it was just the wrong kind of GAL.
I just don't have a good sense where things now stand or what she wants to do going forward. Everyone has a bit of uncertainty, but yours is ridiculous. Of course, she doesn't have to ask anything about you; she's got her mother right there knowing everything you do, so she doesn't have to be curious. One episode of actually asking what's up is not going to kill your chances. One episode of anything isn't going to. If she doesn't talk or only speaks in uncertainties, then you do the talking. Tell her that you feel like you are in limbo and want to make some choices for your life going forward.
The custody thing doesn't have to do with whose at fault...it's you that have been the custodial parent and her that has been the part-time parent. In this situation, the judge will look at the precedence and see that you have already established yourself as the primary caregiver. That would give you the leg up...not the fact that she's cheating on you.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
