NEVER apologize for hijacking - we can learn so much from each other's hijacks. I agree, what BFM wrote was amazing! I'm printing it out so that I can read it again and again because there is so much to think about.
Detachment is the hardest thing about what we are doing. It takes the most strength, the most energy, the most patience. There are times when I can do it no problem, and others when I fall flat on my face. There are times when I feel like a brand new me, strong, independent, self assured, and others when I'm a child afraid of the dark.
But I also believe that if we were COMPLETELY detached, we would no longer stand for our M, so to me, those moments when I feel "attached" keep me real, let me know that I do still love my H, and that is the real reason I am here. So I try to forgive myself when I do backslide once in awhile.
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08