w is in process of finding a place to rent so she can getaway from the pressures and all and just destress and search for reasons why she shut down, and how to restart herself. We both know this is a slow process, which could take months or even a yr. My goals, are to learn to be a better communicator with her but that goes both ways. She needs to feel the affection and feel secure,,,, as she always displayed it to me,, and I miss that,, as I took that for granted,,,, I wont do that again, I have to confront a few issues in the family, as we put everything ahead of us and let alot of that interfere with us. Some changes are a team thing between us, being on the same page. Others I will have to show her eventually,,, she already said she sees some change but its got to be lasting change.
I will continue with couselling I told her I will do whatever it takes to have that chance at making us better. She did appreciate that. I think the hard part is knowing she wont be coming home soon for a period of time til we hopefully can rebuild. The helpless part is I want to do all this,, but she is the one who has to find that key to unlock her innerself for us. THats what I hope she can do as ending this is not a good alternative. someone recommended the good husband good marriage book,, so I ordered that to read. I hear this is a common thing among men, going through this,,, I tell you if I only knew how to read the signs or,,,,,,, I would have not let this happen.
