hey, lmg ~ I'm having a rather bad day myself, so I can't think of anything uplifting to say, sorry.
Deciding what to do about the ring is a toughy. I haven't worn mine for a couple of years and still find it strange to be out in the world 'unattached'. Especially when I'm out with my kids - I find myself having the impulse to explain to people that I am married, which I find strange since I have absolutely no negative thoughts about single parents in general, other than it's hard being the only adult. Why does it bother me to have people thinking that I'm single?
Can you make the decision about your ring without reference to your H at all? Regardless of whether he wears his or not, how do YOU feel about taking YOURS off?