As for the phone calls, I see no empowering of the OW. Apparently the three of them have known each other in the past. I think it would knock her husband on his keister to know that these two women were now in close contact with each other. Look at his cycle: get his fix from OW, run back to wife, feel pressure so go get another fix, run back to wife. He has played these two off against each other. Perhaps this will lead to ending this charade.
You know, that's really what I wanted to accomplish - bring the truth out into the open. H is telling OW that he wants to be with her and he is not seeing me, and telling me he is not seeing her and is confused about what he wants. I believe that he is confused - this is probably the most truthful thing he has said to me. But of course he is lying to her about seeing me, so I would assume that he is also lying to me about not seeing OW.
But I don't think I can go dark on H - I believe that would only push him away from me. I have to find a place of balance in this sitch, where I'm not giving away too much, but still showing H that there is a way to come home. That is my problem and my goal.
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
