words of affirmation are different than words of appreciation.
Thanks for picking up my drycleaning today on your way home from work.
is appreciation.
Yes it' nice to say thanks. Saying you're welcome like you mean it too, is just as nice. It acknowledges that you recognize that they thanked you.
Affirmation is more like
Spouse's name, you're regularly (note I didn't use always!) make sure that things I need to make my life easier, get taken care of. Like picking up my drycleaning. That takes a great deal of careful observation to know I needed those things for tomorrow. I admire that about you, that you notice things that matter to those you love and go out of your way to help. I just wanted you to know that.
Find what characteristic your wifes words or actions are 'her' that you are thanking her for or love her for being. Find a way to let her know you notice those characteristics, not just her hair, or clothes or physical appearance.
You may want to start short & sweet. Expect her to look at you like you've been possessed by an alien. Just smile and change the subject. Trust me .. she noticed.
Wait a day or two and give her another one.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
